• 4 weeks ago

    Return To Self: Acceptance of Self

    Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash Ever seen the phrase AS IS WHERE IS when making a purchase, especially used items or real estate? I’m sure you know what it means; that the buyer accepts to purchase the item in whatever condition it is in at the point of sale. Whatever faults or defects it

  • 1 month ago

    Return To Self: The Art of Detachment

    Detachment is a word that often carries negative connotations. Most people associate it with aloofness, indifference and generally a state of not caring. One of the most basic definitions refers to it as the state of being disengaged or separated from something. Where emotions are concerned, we tend to get overly attached and invested in

  • 1 month ago

    Return To Self: Don’t Catch Feelings!

    By now, I hope that you have taken a long hard look in the mirror. Asked yourself some tough questions and hopefully, been brutally honest with the answers. With a little luck and a bit of effort, you are well on your way to becoming more comfortable in your own skin, the real you. I

  • 1 month ago

    Return To Self: Be Selfish!

    One of the greatest challenges that we all have is Time. Our Time. Demands on our time. Trying to figure out how to make our time fit all the things we feel driven to do. Like any other mortal I have always struggled with time. I had an even greater challenge. For most of my

  • 1 month ago

    Return to Self – Introspection

    When is the last time you looked at yourself in a mirror? Like really gazed into your eyes till you got lost in yourself? Never? Well you aren’t alone. I had never really looked at myself in a mirror my entire life. Don’t get me wrong – I have plenty of mirrors that I use

  • 2 months ago

    Return To Self: Awakening

    When I first started the “Life begins at 40” series back in March, I was honestly still grappling with the shifts that my life had undergone in the past couple of years. In this year alone, there have been such huge fundamental shifts in my persona that at some point I just had to take

  • 3 months ago

    The Silent Tsunami

      Today I turn a year older. It might as well be ten years older though, based on the events of the last fourteen months. Two heartbreaking deaths, entry and subsequent exit from a business venture, additions to an already complex blended family, not to mention the daily routine of being a wife, mother, daughter,

  • 7 months ago

    A Tiny Step…and a Challenge.

    Exactly one month and one day ago, I saw my dad alive for the final time. I didn’t know then that it would be the final time. That he would take his last breath two days later. He was in good spirits as usual, despite looking frail and being very groggy. The next time I

  • 8 months ago


    My dad died 13 days ago. That number seems morbidly appropriate right now for some reason. I thought I was ready. Boy was I wrong. You can never be ready. Nothing prepares you for the pain of knowing that you will never see the person you love again. Not even numerous losses prior to the

  • 9 months ago

    Your Feelings Are Your Problem.

    So in my last post I waded into uncharted waters and going by the general silence, I take it my brutal honesty hit a sweet painful spot. Now that I have opened up that can of worms, I might as well bite the bullet and keep going. One of my recent experimental A-ha’s is my

  • 9 months ago

    You Are Not That Special…

    During my most recent conflict of conscience, I called a close friend (I have painfully few of those now) to get help picking my brain. I knew what I had to do but I needed to hear it out loud to make sure I had covered all my bases. The crux of my inner conflict

  • 10 months ago

    Out of the Frying Pan…

    Someone once quipped that things will often get worse before they start to get better. Someone else stated that it’s darkest before dawn. I am no stranger to either of these sayings and my rather dramatic past had always more or less followed similar patterns. It still took me by surprise, for some strange reason,

  • 10 months ago

    Life Begins At 40…

      They say life begins at 40. I’m not sure who “they” are but I’m slowly starting to realize how right they are. A decade ago I thought that this phrase was all hogwash, after all, my life seemed pretty OK even then. With the typical clarity that hindsight brings, I can now see how

  • 1 year ago

    The Kerosene Lamp

    I had the honor of doing my first group motivational talk about a month ago. It was both a culmination and a dawning in my quest for my true identity and passion. Culmination because it marked the end of a journey that began six months ago when I finally took the plunge from the known

  • 1 year ago

    A Month of Fulfillment

    Exactly one month ago I embarked on The Fulfillment challenge where my aim was to express gratitude for all that I have as well as to demonstrate that life fulfillment is found in the things we already have. To be honest, when I started I knew that it would obviously impact my life positively but

  • 1 year ago

    Where Did The Romance Go?

    I am a hopeless romantic. Always have been. Love stories bring tears to my eyes. I have often been accused of being naïve about love and relationships but I really cannot help myself. I grew up reading and watching fairytale stories which probably influenced my disposition to all matters romance. Back then, romance novels like

  • 1 year ago

    Holiday Blues

    As we head towards Easter celebration in a few days, here are a few tips on combating Holiday Blues.  This article first appeared in the December issue of Sage magazine. All rights reserved. Please indicate the source when quoting this article.  As we prepare to bring down the curtains on yet another year I’m sure

  • 1 year ago

    Broken Yet Unbowed

    Sad love songs. We all love them. They break chart records and make millions for their composers. Have you ever noticed that you are more likely to relate with the lyrics of a song when you are going through a tough time? I bet that musicians never write great songs when they are happy; the

  • 1 year ago

    The Fulfillment Challenge

    Late last week as my husband and I were taking our evening walk, we happened upon a heart wrenching scene. Right in the middle of the path lay a semi-conscious middle aged woman flanked by her two young children. The woman was on her way back home following an unsuccessful day of job hunting in

  • 2 years ago

    To New Beginnings…

    It has been a while since my last post. This year has been quite the roller coaster and I was definitely in for the ride of my life.  And what a ride it’s been!  I have made some huge decisions in the last few months, but looking back at the last decade of my life,

  • 2 years ago

    Yes Your Problems Are Valid

    I grew up knowing that all the people who live in Somalia are starving. If your household was anything like ours then you know of the “incentive” some mothers would use to ensure that their kids finish their carrots, pumpkins or other eeky veggies. (To this day I still cannot stomach cooked carrots, pumpkin or

  • 2 years ago

    Beating The Rain

    When did the rain start beating us? Yes I know. It’s one of those weird metaphors typically heard in our local corporate lingo. I heard one of my colleagues say it last week as we were trying to establish the root cause of yet another typical work complaint. Then for some strange reason, it popped back

  • 2 years ago

    Falling To Pieces

    It’s OK to not be OK. Yes I said it. It’s OK to fall apart. To have no clue where you are going or what the heck you are doing. To not know whether you’re moving forward, backward or just oscillating around the same point for goodness knows how long. To constantly grasp at straws

  • 2 years ago

    Let Me Tell You About My Smile: Part 3 – Self Awareness

    “Addiction!” The second time I heard that word was while sitting in a chair in a little room as a therapist described my own life back to me. She followed it up with “Depression!” Another big word she used to describe my situation. I wanted to argue. But I was also the one who told

  • 2 years ago

    Let Me Tell You About My Smile: Part 2 – Pity Party For One

      Have you ever had someone look at you with a pity? I have had people look at me with pity. A face that is one part judgmental and two parts charity. A look that will make you realize just how low you really are. A look, today, I only give to street kids. It’s

  • 2 years ago

    Let Me Tell You About My Smile: Part 1 – Growing Pains

    A good friend of mine asked me to guest post him and I will be featuring his story in a 3-part series. In his own words, he has suffered it in silence for long enough and hopes that telling it will help someone out who could be going through a similar situation.   Let me

  • 2 years ago

    Life And Butterflies…

    A couple of days ago I was catching up with one of my former clients and she was relating how strange life is as she took stock of her achievements against what she had set out to do. What was particularly interesting was that she had met some of her goals but through channels she

  • 3 years ago

    New Year, Old Grief

    As my first post for the year, I am featuring a guest post from a reader who requested anonymity. Her story is deeply introspective and a great testimony to inner strength. I found her story especially moving as I have realized that the greatest success stories of triumph often arise from the ashes of countless

  • 3 years ago

    Leaving The Rat Race.

    Lately I have been mulling over some of the choices we make and ultimately how they mold our future.  A lot of things happened this year that seriously changed the way I viewed life and happiness in general. What seemed so important before suddenly seemed so trivial and the little things that we tend to

  • 3 years ago

    REALLY…It’s OK to have Standards.

    About a week ago one of my neighbors dropped by to see my little princess and inevitably as she “ooo-d” and “aaa-d” at the baby, she confessed that she had very serious baby fever. For those who have no clue what that means, it’s basically when a woman’s ovaries figuratively start clamoring for utilization based

  • 3 years ago

    Of Bleeding Hearts and Giving…

    I have always been a bleeding heart. You know, the kind of person who is excessively sympathetic towards those in unfortunate circumstances. I have been known to give in to emotions on frequent occasions and take up charity causes for people I don’t even know. Some people (read cynical people) find this naïve and a

  • 3 years ago

    She’s Out! Hello Alayna!

    My beautiful little princess had her first photo shoot and as usual, as we have now come to expect, lived up to her diva-ness…Get the gorgeous pictures here: SHE’S OUT! HELLO ALAYNA! 0

  • 3 years ago


    I’ve been meaning to write a post for the longest time but somehow time just kept going by till I woke up a couple of days ago and realized that we are halfway through the year already! Isn’t it strange how time used to crawl by when we were in our teens and early twenties?

  • 3 years ago

    Choices or Excuses?

    I recently completed an 11-week course called Centonomy. For those who have never heard of it before, its basically a course focused on helping people understand financial issues better, hence improve their own management of money. It’s a course that has truly impacted how I view my life in relation to money and I would

  • 3 years ago

    Tony, Ronni and Aidan

    I never thought I would enjoy a photoshoot this much, more so my very own maternity shoot. This was clearly the highlight of my rather dramatic pregnancy so far. I love that my friend Andrew was able to ever so poignantly capture my feelings, both past and present! All in all, I am so grateful

  • 3 years ago

    A Final Tribute.

    My son’s dad died two weeks ago. I have really struggled with writing this post. Difficult does not begin to describe how hard it was. I still remember the call on that beautiful Thursday morning. It was the day before Good Friday. The call that turned my world a deep shade of grey. Everything after

  • 3 years ago

    Of Buns in Ovens….

    I have always looked forward to having a second baby. Pregnancy is supposed to be a wonderful time in a woman’s life as her body nurtures new life and prepares to create a miracle of life from tiny cells. The actual experience is varied from woman to woman with some having a relatively easy time

  • 3 years ago

    The Thing about Resolutions…

    I have never been much of a resolutions person. I do make resolutions, but never at the start of the New Year. Other than being a trifle cliché-ish, I mostly didn’t believe that I should have to wait till the start of a new year and the so-called 365-days-blank slate to decide on what needed

  • 4 years ago

    Letting Bruce Go.

    About a week ago I bid a very heart-wrenching goodbye to my baby – Bruce. Being a very integral part of my life, it broke my heart to see him go. While being one of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make, it was also time for me to move on, no matter

  • 4 years ago


    I feel the need to point out something that may appear obvious but apparently isn’t according to most people. Listen up. People – adult, live human beings with red blood running in their veins cannot be stolen. Belongings can be stolen. Cars can be stolen. Babies can be stolen. Money can be stolen. Even hair

  • 4 years ago

    My Testimonial

    The testimonial below was originally posted on http://www.newdawnsolutions.net/expanded-testimonial—veronica-waithaka.html  It is the story of how I discovered my true passion and learnt how to use it to fulfill my purpose… “I have always been the kind of person who could fix anything; well, almost anything. Every new thing I encountered was merely a new challenge for

  • 4 years ago

    RollerCoaster Clarity.

    For the past two months or so I feel like my life has been on a roller-coaster of sorts. Turns out that running a coaching practice (part-time) alongside a full time regular job isn’t a piece of cake. Add to that trying to launch a whole new enterprise on transformational leadership and change management plus

  • 4 years ago

    A Broken Heart

    Lately I’ve been feeling really melancholy. You know the feeling when you’re just feeling low for apparently no fathomable reason? Yes that feeling. I have been wracking my brain with little success as to what could be making me feel this way. I mean, I’m typically a really happy person. Plus my life honestly couldn’t

  • 4 years ago

    Anger Most Foul

    This morning I lost my temper. Like really lost my temper. For those who don’t know, I have a relatively short fuse but I also tend to calm down pretty fast. This morning however was different. I experienced a rage I have never ever felt before. This morning I finally understood what the phrase “blind

  • 4 years ago

    Love is.

                        Last Sunday one of my best friends got engaged to the love of her life and one of the nicest guys I have had the pleasure to know. It was the most beautifully and elaborately planned surprise – she was throwing him a surprise birthday party and unbeknown to

  • 4 years ago

    My Angel.

    Exactly seven years ago, my life changed irrevocably. Exactly seven years ago, God sent me a precious little Angel to save me. Exactly seven years ago today, my little man Aidan came into the world.                                   Today I celebrate him with this post, simply because, he is absolutely and without a doubt, the best thing

  • 4 years ago


                                           What kind of a friend are you? What kind of friends do you have? It may seem pretty cliché but the people you surround yourself with influence you more than you would care to imagine. In turn, you also influence them just as much. So if you have never looked keenly at your friends,

  • 4 years ago


                                     Last week I was having a chat with my sister who recently got pregnant with her first baby. She was narrating an experience she had had with some ladies at a function. You know the typical ones where all

  • 4 years ago

    The Second Time Around…

                                     I was never much of a believer in second chances. Especially in the big stuff like career choices, investment decisions and of course the biggest, Love. I always figured that once you had picked a particular path or made a choice, you were pretty much stuck with it for life. It also did not

  • 4 years ago

    A Lifting of the Spirit

    This post totally inspired me today! Yes, even I need inspiration and this one just did it for me. 0

  • 4 years ago


                                          Today I laughed for the first time in a while. Like really laughed. Don’t get me wrong, I smile and chuckle and grin all the time. But I’m talking about those loud, deep-throated belly laughs, completely unapologetic and uninhibited hyena-like (think Lion King) guffaws. The kind that make everyone in the room stop what

  • 4 years ago


                                                    This past month my pastor in church has been dealing with a topic called Seasons of Life. It’s basically about the different seasons in our life – loneliness, loss, prosperity, sadness, sickness, happiness etc and how to deal with each season. What struck me most is how distinct each season is in our lives

  • 4 years ago

    Murphy and his law…

                                       Ever have one of those days where anything that can possibly go wrong does? The kind where you ask “Can the day get any worse?” and apparently the universe takes that as a challenge!  Well I’m having one of those. How do you normally deal with yours? My tested and tried solution

  • 4 years ago

    Life…And Death.

    Early this morning we received the most devastating news at work. Our colleague had tragically passed away early in the morning while undergoing treatment in the hospital. Worse still, she was 6 months pregnant. Honestly speaking, I am still in shock even as I write this. I look around at everyone in a daze, the

  • 4 years ago

    It only takes a step…

    How did I get here? That’s the most common question I have been asked in the last two weeks. I have had varied responses…from its my life’s purpose to my passion for helping people to just wanting to do something different. Now that I have really had the chance to think about it though, I

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