Bread Crumbs

In the past couple of months, I have come to appreciate the value of the present moment. To be honest, this was something new for me – like most people, I spent most of my time mulling over my past or wondering what the future held. Of course, this meant that I completely missed each moment as it was actually occurring, hence never truly appreciating all that it encompassed. As I continued on my self-awakening journey, which took me deep into the layers of my authentic self, it slowly became clear that I was missing out on a critical part of my own existence. You see, we use up all our time planning our future, that we never notice when the future becomes our present. Ironically, we only dwell on it once more when it becomes our past. This is also the root cause of most peoples´ general apathy and disillusionment towards their lives. We work so hard in search of happiness and it always seems to be just beyond our grasp. Yet there is a very simple answer to finding fulfilment and it lies in every moment that we take breath into our bodies. You see, our life on…

Beauty Lies in the Mind of the Beholden

It’s often quoted, “beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder”, which means that beauty is subjective and its determination is dependent on the person doing the observing. It’s a saying often used to explain away the varied opinions of what we consider beauty to be. A lot of us tend to seek out these subjective opinions of how others see us, deceptively drawn into the fickle nature of validation. We naively choose to believe the narrative of another’s subjective vision, over our own intuitive self-appraisal. Yet the cold, ironical fact is that, others will only see what we choose to show, whether we do it consciously or not. It is you who determines the face that others get to behold, whether you know this or not. Be it face or mask, what we show to the world is first and foremost a reflection of how we see ourselves. Most people aren’t even aware of all that they are carrying inside and the impact it has on what the world beholds when its gaze comes upon them. Whether you believe that you have the choice or not, it is you who determines what people see when they look at you….

The Beauty of Your Present

Yesterday afternoon I was seated in traffic, the heat notwithstanding, my little girl in the back seat all excited from school. Contrary to what a lot of people do in traffic, which is to get frustrated and impatient, I found myself seemingly frozen in the moment. I took in my surroundings slowly, like I was seeing everything for the first time. Next to me was a gaudily modified matatu from one of the city’s far flung residential suburbs. From its interior blared loud music which I didn’t recognize but whose beat I found my left foot unconsciously tapping along with. I could feel the curious gaze of the vehicle’s multiple occupants as they did what people in traffic do best. Stare. Gawk actually. Such scrutiny used to make me feel very self-conscious; today however it didn’t bother me at all. Actually it barely registered in my mind at that moment. As traffic slowly inched forward, my gaze rested on a fuel station across the road. It was also the location of a popular eatery attracting those who love their ribs sticky and finger licking good. I took in the customers chatting animatedly as they dug into their meals and sipped…

The Cheat Trick

It’s a rather chilly Valentine’s Day morning as I write this post which was inspired by an online chat I was perusing through. Let me paint you a picture. You are in a committed relationship with a great partner, raising your kids together and generally content with your love life. Then one dark day your world falls apart when you discover that your partner has been cheating on you and your entire life together is a complete lie. This is a fairly common scenario, devastating as it is. I would even go so far as to say, that its human nature to check out the grass on the other side of the fence. Why do I say human nature? Cheating is a typical escapism channel that we utilize to avoid dealing with what’s really doing on with us. Cheating is a symptom and not the actual problem. I get very bemused with the reactions people have when they hear that someone cheated on their partner. The most common is, what you did to make that person cheat on you. Somehow it becomes your fault that you were cheated on. Perhaps you didn’t do enough in the relationship to keep your…

Return To Self: Serenity!

In my mind, the word Serenity has always evoked images of Tibetan monks way up in the Himalayas without a care in the world, living a life of utter simplicity and bliss. Well as it turns out, you don’t have to make that long trek in search of the secret to living a tranquil life. You can actually achieve it right where you are. If I remember correctly, most of those documented journeys end with the protagonist realizing that all along he or she held the secret right within themselves all along. So now that I have saved you a trip 🙂 let’s talk about how you can find serenity right where you are. In case you are wondering, yes I have discovered how to tap into it without even leaving my house! First a definition. The state of being calm, peaceful and untroubled. Worried by nothing. Obviously I would like to point out that, being a state, serenity is clearly a continuous choice we make. Meaning that there are times you may not feel so serene, but you always know that you can choose to be. So how do you get into this state? First of all you have…

Return To Self: Gratitude

A quick scour of the internet will give numerous results in regards to what gratitude means, its importance, countless benefits and different ways to express gratitude in your life. Just in case you have been living under a rock, gratitude is the quality of being thankful. It magnifies positive emotions within us and allows us to appreciate and celebrate the present. To put it very simply, it is the ability to see the silver lining in every situation and focus on that. Humans have a tendency to focus on the negative aspects of situations, perhaps due to our comparative nature. It seems so much easier to look at what everyone else has and complain about your perceived lack; as opposed to celebrating the little that you have. As I wind down this series of self-awakening, I have realized that one cannot experience true reawakening without practicing gratitude. Right from self-reflection and learning how to fall in love with the person you see in the mirror. Understanding that everyone has their own story and accepting them just the way they are. Growing in confidence of your unique self and knowing that you are unlike anyone else on this planet. Gratitude is…

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